Been struggling BIG TIME with comparing myself to others. My birthday is coming up this week. Whenever I begin a new year, I tend to evaluate myself and where I am at in my journey. Along with that usually comes the shame of not being where I was “supposed” to be at whatever age I happen to be turning. When that shame gremlin jumps on my back, I start to hear the whispers…. You are not smart enough
You are not fit enough
You are not pretty enough
You will never make it
What makes you think you could do this
This year will be just last like the last
No one wants to hear what you have to say
You don’t belong where you are and this is when everyone figures it out
And I start to tell myself how much more enough everyone else is than I am and how I will never measure up to others no matter how hard I work at it.
That is hard to say out loud, but it is the truth. So, as my birthday week begins, I am working to reframe those thoughts to remind myself that these thoughts can only hold merit if I let them. These thoughts do not have to feel true unless I let them. These thoughts do not have to hang out in my brain unless I let them.
Eleanor Roosevelt said “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Now, I have never met Eleanor Roosevelt, but I imagine that she meant this statement with regard to other people but I think that sometimes we play a major role in our feelings of inferiority. So, I would like to modify it to say “No one, including yourself, can make you feel inferior without your consent.” And today, I stop giving myself permission to tell me that I am less than.
I hope you can do the same. Happy Monday, friends!